Got this in from Christina on whether or not she should buy a horse.
For me, there’s an obvious answer: there’s never a good time to do most things in life – so I think Christina should go for it.
But what about you? Should Christina?
“Hi Alastair,
I really enjoy reading your e-mails and stories. I am an avid animal lover especially dogs and horses. I’m hoping you or your followers may help me shed some light on a decision that I have to make. Four years ago my husband and I sold our house in suburbia and bought a house in the country with 120 acres of farm land and a boarding kennel for dogs, life is good. About a year and a half ago I met a woman down the road with an array of critters including 8 horses.
Three of them are young male horses, 2-4 yrs. I love to spend time at her barn and look after all the critters when she goes away. Here’s my problem, she’s unemployed now and has been encouraging me to buy a horse – a couple of these young males (which follow me around like lap dogs) keep them at her barn in exchange for helping in the barn and haying in the summer. I love these two boys, and gave her the money to have them gelded to help her out, no strings attached.
At this stage of my life, a young 50 yr old women, would it be selfish of me to take on these two youngsters that both need to be trained for riding? My specialty are dogs , I can feel their energy, and I’ve had years of training experience with our K9 friends. I only started riding lessons a year ago and my instructor also trains horses and lives ten minutes away. Should I buy a horse? I could fence in one of my fields and convert a building into a nice two stall barn with indoor storage for hay, tack….etc .I have the means to provide a really good home for these boys. Am I to old for this commitment?
Christina”
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this one – is there ever a good time time to buy a horse? Please do post a comment below.
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Never too old to love an animal.never too old to ride, never too old to live.
I would take them, they’re already attached to you and you have the means.I think they will provide you with many happy memories.
I agree I am 51 and I believe never too old for a new family member or never too old to ride. Whats the harm if it doesn’t work out you can find a nice home for the boys and you will have added some extra training for them. Good Luck
Christina,
50 is so young…if you feel the energy go for it.However first a few thoughts.
How have you done with your riding lessons ?Would you say you are relatively comfortable riding a horse ? Are these 2jorses totally green?Have theyever had anyone on their backs?Consider all this. Having horses yourself is quite the expensive & 24/7 job.I did not hear of a feed room, grooming area, saddle room ?Also consider the cost of feed, hay,tack, farrier & vet costs. It is one thing to visit & have them follow you around but it is quite a different story having them full time. If you have all the financial assistance you require & can do it the right way…weighing all the considerations above…I would say go for it. I have my own farm, live in Canada wih lots of riding & hacking trails. Ride all 4 seasons & there is nothing more satisfying than doing & having it all. You must consider all the time commitment it will take.I started my own place when I was 50 years young & never regretted a day of it. Have had my gelding for 15 of 18 years & an Arab 12 years.Although I have had horses since I was a youngster. But if your heart,energy & love of horses is imporant to you then go for it.
Val
My cousin aged 65, but with a lot of horse experience took on a 2 year old a couple of years age, she has been working with him but she says she feels he has too much energy for her to feel confident about riding him much. My feeling is the older you are and the less experience you have maybe you need a horse that has been there seen that and done it. However, other people think a young horse will be trainable in the way they want. Its just the energy thing and the fact that they are youngsters that may be an issue, but heck 50 is not old so if she is fit and confident maybe she should go for it!
50 is not old! LOL! I’m 67 and getting my 1st horse soon. Though, I will be boarding down the road from me. I will be taking lessons in riding..care..EVERYTHING. It’s on my bucket list. I will make provisions for the horse if I do pass on before he/she does so their life will be good till the end.
I am so glad I read your post.I am 61 and am taking riding lessons. I have always loved horses but never owned one. They just make me so happy. Anyway I want to get one of my own and I also would have to board my horse. I keep trying to talk myself out of it because I felt I was too old. You have given me hope!
since you are inexperience rider, you should take on an older horses with more experience. once you have confidence and experience then i think you will consider to take on the youngste
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We were givven a horse 5 months ago. I realised that there is no such thing as a free horse, R20000-00 later we had the kids kitted out in riding gear with a good second hand saddle and ongoing riding lessons, the wife looks like a million dollars in the jods etc etc.. Having these guys changes your life, we cancelled our December holiday after the one free horse grew to 7. They need care and it is a huge responsibility, extremely rewarding but responsibility still. They get fed twice a day and they need grooming at least every other day. If you are ready to put the work in, then have them defenately. If not, leave them with the neighbor and visit them when you get a moment.
I’m 65 and in good shape. I hike, bike, snow ski, snow shoe and more. I love riding my horse and plan to ride until I’m 80 or more. I will need to get one more horse in my life. I didn’t start riding until I was 46, had started learning natural horsemanship at 41. I love that I continue to learn, I read, watch videos, attend clinics and constantly pay attention to fun and safety. My horse is so attached to me and has good manners. I ride alone near the ranch but want to ride with others on the trail. You have all the right circumstances. Are the horses right for you as horses, not big dogs? Is the trainer right for you and the horses to learn safely?
you gave your own answer… no excuses girl; GO FOR IT!!! I am 53 and still riding.
good luck and enjoy them!
Well I’m your age, and have recently invested in my own dream horse, admittedly she’s been trained and risen, but truly gives so much pleasure to us all in the family, she’s just part of the gang of dogs, cat chickens, so if you have the time, then now is the time!!
Hey..i wanted a horse all my life,work commitments got in the way…finally..at 52..i decided now or never..bought my 1st horse, had him 3 years,sadly he died of equine motor neurone disease…whilst he was ill..i rode a 17hh hunter..he then went off the yard to hunt..what did I do…went and got myself a 17.2hh hunter..no I don’t hunt,no I don’t jump,no I don’t compete..im a happy hacker with average riding skills….go for it girl…im sure you will all enjoy each other…the big plus..you have your own field…I would definitely say…no..not too old..if you live til your 80s/90s you will outlive them..don’t let your 50s deter you….go for it and I wish you all the very very best…at 58,and 5ft 4..i own a 10 year old…and he will NEVER ever be sold on. good luck xx
I bought a young Friesian filly at the age of 53 and have been training her and now riding her…she and this experience has been the best part of my adult life…a true bonding and learning experience…don’t hold back…just do it!
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Go for it!!! If it then doesn’t work, you at least tried!
i’m 56 and have ridden on and off most of my life and bought my first horse recently. the horse spooked and I broke 3 bones in my back and was off 5 months – but back riding…but of note is we do break more easily , and from someone riding lesson horses all my life and going to a well trained 7 year old quickly learned there is a bit too much spunk there for me! another acquaintance of mine bought a green horse and is really struggling. at a younger age I would’ve loved the challenge but I would strongly suggest a well broke horse at first….try leasing first to see…if you are working it is hard to find the time to dedicate to a younger horse also. I loved owning, but turned out also the horse ended up with lameness problems…. lesson 2 get a vet check! But I did love owning but was glad not to be paying board and vet bills when flat on my back….good luck!
Personally I do not think you are too old. I bought my very first horse 4 months ago and I am 61. I wasn’t looking for a horse but the lady that brought this youngster to the yard decided after 2 weeks to sell him. I did some groundwork with him in her absence and simply connected and fell for him! I bought him 2 weeks later, hadn’t even sat on him. He is still at same yard and we have a connection between us and it works. So if you ‘feel’ that this is right then go for it. Yes there will be teething problems but hey that’s all part of leanring together.
You don’t mention any experience with horses. Horses are not like dogs so they must be handled very differently. That said, you are never too old to love animals, but if you ride horses, it’s not “if” you will fall off, but “when”. With young horses, even if professionally broke, they will react to all sorts of things. We have reached a point in our lives that we simply don’t bounce like we used to. Your safety would be the biggest consideration. Good luck, whatever you decide.
I am a 70 year old woman and have just started riding. Riding is an exercise and the more you exercise, the more fit you become/stay. (If you don’t use it, you lose it!!) also, it helps develop your sense of balance. QueenElizabeth is in her mid 80’s and rides regularly!
Even if you don’t get round to ride them, the very act of petting and grooming them is very very theraputic for them and for you!
The medical profession say the the benefits of contact with animals are enormous especially for children with conditions such as Autism or Autism.
So Go for it!
Love
Sylvie
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If it feels right then go with it.
It sounds like they have chosen you, but take it slow, build the bond. And don’t let anyone bully you in going faster than it feels right for you and them.
Take tiny steps to begin with as the trust builds so the steps will automatically get bigger. The rewards will be far greater in the long run.
I speak from experience. I have just taken on a rescue mare who came from the Traveler community and used for illegal trotting races so she was a real high wire who lived on her nerves when she came. I am 55yrs old and took her on after losing my beloved 26yr old who had been with me all his life.
I have no regrets as she is a sweet heart who is very happy soul who is very settled and getting quieter by the minute.
Christina, Too old at 50? I’m 64 and still going strong with my horses. I do Competitive Combined driving. People look at me like I have two heads when I tell them that. Combined Driving is a 3 phase
competition that is Dressage, Cones and Cross Country. It really a rush expecially the cross country part where we’re timed and speed and accuracy are everything. My advise is if you take the horses work very close with your trainer. Take lots of time and have lots of patience and make sure each step is done throughly. You will have a much safer horse which will pay off for you with a wonderful experience and relationshop with your horses. Don’t worry about age. This last summer I trained my grand daughters pony to drive and now I’m in the process of training another one for me so I can drive pairs. Age is only a number. Be safe and have fun!
You have a horse trainer 10 minutes away and you like the way this trainer is in training the horse? You can afford to have them and have them trained? You know all that goes with having horses? Feed, tack, shoeing, vet bills etc…They sounds like they have good sweet dispositions and you are willing, then of course bring them home. Maybe your husband will want to ride with you in the future. Young horses once broke to the saddle need a lot of wet blanket time, so if you are a confident rider you can do it!
Sounds like you have local help and support when you need it. By all means, get these horses before it is too late for them. Get them now.
I am 62 and just bought a 13 yr old mare last October 2012. Also bought a 2yr old colt that I fell in love with, from where the mare was boarded. As Christina did, we bought 160 acres and are in the process of building a barn and getting a dug well up and running. I also have a 14 yr old mare that was given to me. I say go for it. It is my go to haven and I get so much pleasure from them just being with them. My only problem is if they pass on before I do I need to get a plan in place for their care. Go for it you won’t be sorry.
Will she regret not taking these horses? How will she feel if they were sold to someone else? These are important question Christina needs to think about.
Go for it, you are NOT too old! It will bring you such joy…..and a sense of accomplishment. I am 61m, my horse 24….we are still at it most days of the week! good luck!
It doesn’t matter how much experience really… You have a passion, and an opportunity, and you only live once, so take that horse on!
You can learn together, you can train him and he can teach you …
Cath 😆
Sorry girl, I am a very busy 51, working fulltime and busy finishing off my bcom degree one of these day and everytime I study for the exams, I love spending time on my horse to relax. Go for it.
About 2 years ago I found a rescue horse..went to look and got another with her..Now we have 4 horses. I just turned 59, started lessons love my horses. We have had several trainers COME TO MY HOUSE to train as I had a bad experience with sending my 2 young ones off. My husband, me and my trainer got bucked off a horse I bought on line that was advertised as gentle, gentle, gentle..Well he was ON THE GROUND but I the saddle he was spooky and bucky. Make sure the horses are desentized a lot and they will change when moved from one location to another. It takes about a year for trust to be earned with horses so be firm but gentle. Don’t let them run over you. They are like 6 year old children who will test you to see what they can get away with but if you become the LEAD MARE – they will do great. My horses are treated better than my kids now and I have 2 15 year old girls who are in love with horses that come out 2-3 days a week and help and ride with me. I love it!
I’m 62 years old and if I had your resources I wouldn’t hesitate for a second. It’s a wonderful opportunity for you to enjoy.
I am 37 & just bought a 2nd horse. She’s the cutest little 2yr old filly and I must admit, despite already being a Thoroughbred racehorse owner, I still struggled deciding if buying another unschooled baby is the right thing to do. A fellow horselover & friend gave me good advice. He said ‘do what your heart tells you’ & bought her. It was the best thing I couldve done, I’m so proud to see her improve physically & gaining self esteem emotionally!I’d buy them,there’s no bigger love & trust than that between a rider & her horse! <3
My question to the writer is ” how important to you is it that you ride these horses? ” Realistically, 2 young geldings that are not saddle trained is a bad idea for ANY age new rider. That being said, does it mean you should not take them on at 50? Absolutely NOT! There are so many things you can do with a horse that never require getting on their backs. If you have the means and the time to commit to them it’s a win/win situation for all. If you do want to ride at some point, you will need to hire a good trainer to get them started and work with you as well. I am 52 with 7 horses and have MS to boot. If I can do it you can too. IMO, good ground work is essential to the training or retraining of any horse- that you CAN do. I would look into clicker training since there are many similarities between training horses and training dogs with this method and you will be on more familiar territory. That will give you some experience while you learn how to deal with the differences between the species (they are vast!)
Dear Christina,
I’m in the horse business since 30 years as a riding instructor. I my opinion, the problem here is not your age, the problem is your lack of expeience with riding horses that could lead you to a lot of problems, accidents and money spent. People tend to be very romantic and say : ”Oh.., they are so nice to me on the ground, I’ll train them myself” but reality hits them hard when they realise that a young horse can be very different under saddle than on the ground. Riding a trained horse and training a green horse are two very very different things; you need to be very competent to train a colt. And a horse is not trained the same way you train a dog because a horse is a pray animal and a dog is a predator = 2 opposite and different mindings.
Also, I always worry when I see people having too many animals and not beeing able to take care of them properly (filling their needs) because of lack of money and time. You want to do good to those colts (and yourself)? Buy 3 of them (at a good reasonable price) and exchange them to a good trainer for 2 already well-trained horses. The colts will benefit of a good training and care and you will have 2 good trained horses to learn how to ride with, (having only one horse : he would feel alone on your farm) and you will have a horse you can lent to a friend to go ride with you (it is not fun and carefull to ride alone).
If you don’t buy them, it is no big deal and not really your problem, you are not responsible for the situastion. They will just stay where they are, lacking of care, hoof maintenance and vet shots, (that is the first thing people stop taking care of when they lack money), food and training (they are due to start there training now)and I guess the owner doesn’thave the expertise to train them or the money to send them to a real trainer. You have an opportunity here but don’t get too emmotional or you may regret it. Be realistic, think with comon sense. If you really love thoses horses, think of what is best for them at their actual age and condition and not best for your emmotions or their actual owner problems.
You are lucky to have the resources most horse lovers would dream of having. You won’t be sorry.
I disagree.i bought a 2.5 year old unbroken mustang mare and shortly later rescued a 2.5 year old paint mare from a killpen. I havent been near horses in 15 years due to a bad accident on a horse. Yes its been a TON of work on both them and myself, however i now,have 2 best friends. I broke the paint mare myself, she NEVER once attempted to throw/ buck me. I wrkd with her so much when i sat her it was business as usual for her and she moved off like shes been ridden her whole life. I hired a proffessional trainer to sit the mustang because i had broken my shoulder in a car accident at that critical time. The point is i have tons of experience training everything BUT horses, yet i made it work and DID IT WELL!! Yes i spent countless hours reading, researching, pickin friends brains, and trial and error. Now over a year later EVERYONE who meets them/ rides them cannot believe s they behave so well. we are proof its about dedication and time. Yes its absolutely not for everyone. But if ur heart is in it anything is possible. Dont let anyone tell u anythings impossible. The fact that your asking this question shows doubt in ur heart. Everyone said i was crazy takin these 2 on at the same time but now i have 2 mares that are more loyal and trustworthy than most everyones elses ‘older’ horses 🙂
I am 3 years old, and my mommy owns a breathtaking 6yr old dark bay warmblood mare of 17.2hh named Danzig Flag from Danzig’s bloodline. 2 months ago she bought me my very own baby horse named ThereGoesMyHeart Danzig & she’s helping to teach me how to school & train her so we can grow up together. She says nobody is ever too young or too old for their very own horse. I am very lucky & blessed to have my very own horse at 3! My mom & I love our horses with all our hearts & they’re a part of our family,and forever will be:-)we’ll never trade them in for anything,they’re the best thing we have in our lives
Don’t wait!
Hi I agree with all the comments as they cover more or less everything that I would say to you. I am 58 and bought my second horse 4 years ago. My first horse an old bay mare whom I adored and got me walking again after a bad back operation without her i would probably still be on two walking sticks. When she died I was devastated I felt I had lost my best friend. I learnt to ride western as I found I could sit on a western saddle with no discomfort then I bought a 2 year old quarter horse who is now 6 we have been through some tough times I did not know anything about own a young horse. The breeder backed and trained him for me and I brought him home when he was just over 3 years old. You need energy for a youngster but the joy and the experience they bring you I would not have missed for the world. We are still learning my friend and I and maybe he will outlive me I am now 58 but I will cross that bridge when I come to it in the meantime we enjoy each other. So as long as you take on board all the comments as they are all relevant then go for it. Some people never get the opportunity to do what you are thinking about and don’t have the facilities either. Remember you only live once don’t spend the next 20 years wishing you had done something and did not do it.
GO FOR IT Christina!!! I am 53 and just got a now 22 m.o.yearling paint! He has so helped with my depression. I have had a 3 level lower back fusion and a 5 level neck fusion. He is yet to b broke but we have such a beautiful bond. They will forever change your life!!!
I wouldn’t advise buying a youngster for your first horse. And a horse shouldn’t really be broken in until its third year and shouldn’t be expected to do much work until its at least five or six dependant on the breed, their bones/ligaments and tendons are not fully formed until then. Young horses are like young children, they will try it on, can be very unpredictable and stubborn and can present you with a whole host of handling problems that you wouldn’t necessarily encounter with older horses.
Leave the young horse to the experts or more experienced and take on something to ‘ride away’ thats been there and done it, a schoolmaster. Incidently horses are better with another for company, to keep one on its own is cruel. But you could always have one for yourself and then charge livery for someone to keep a horse at yours for company. This way you get to make a bit of money and hopefully have someone like minded to ride with.
Go for it girl. I am 68 and trying to increase my string to 7 horses (in the process of looking for another hackney). It keeps me young and fit.
Never too old darlin’! I’m 63, ride, rope, and train my own horses which are more pets than livestock. Wouldn’t trade the enjoyment of being nuzzled for a grooming or a ride for anything. You go for it girl! You got the heart for it!
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You are never too old to buy a horse. I bought one a year ago and I am 53. I hope that my grandchildren will eventually become involved and get into showing. I love my big guy, he is incredibly sweet and loving. I ride him about every weekend but mostly he is just my best buddy. He is warm and cuddly and I love him so much. He is quite the spoiled brat. LOL but he is good and for the most part listens to me and keeps me safe. There are days though that I question his motives because they do have a mind of their own. I took about 5 months of getting to know him and loving him before I ever tired to ride him. He is very sweet now and loves to hug. You should absolutely get them! Good luck! You will enjoy them!
Yes do it!!
No, I am fifty one young and bought a horse last year. I do worry about dying before my animals as I have four dogs a cat and a horse. They are spoilt. If you have the land and time for them do it. Remember it’s a human that decided a horse needs to be ridden every day but horses are fine grazing and running. You are the only one to make that decision though. Good luck.
😡 Too old? I don’t understand why you would even ask that? I didn’t know 50 was old. I think what you are really asking is “Am I up for the task?” Which a 30 year old should ask as well, and even a teenager. It sounds like you have the resources and support, so why wouldn’t you go for it? Are you unfit/out of shape, completely clueless about horses, or prefer knitting, perhaps? Step up to the plate. These guys arrived when you were ready to work with them. Your dog behavior background is an asset. Let go of the “old” crap (it is insulting, sorry, as at 46 I go to the gym daily, downhill ski, and ride 3 days a week — oh, and just graduated from nursing school)……… That kind of uncertainty won’t take you were you want to go. Be realistic about your resources, financial and horse-community-wise, then decide based on that. And ENJOY!!!!
At 52 I just purchased a 4.5 y/o horse in June of this yr after not being around them for over 30 yrs. I love it!! He is green and we are learning together. You have all the means, of course you should go for it!! Good luck with your boys, you’ll be fine!
Christina
You love these horses, they love you and you have the means to help them. Listen to your heart, not your head. Horses need love and care. I only started riding at 34 years old (I am 37 now). Everyone said I was mad and that adults cannot learn to ride. I am jumping at shows and ride 6 days a week now. I don’t know where I would be without my beloved horse.
Go for it. Don’t let age get in the way of love, passion and a dream. You are a blessed position. Listen to your heart, you know your answer.
Let us know what you decide to do.
In love and light
Saffron
Hi Christina,
I don’t often reply to posts here, but after reading your story I couldn’t resist. I had done lots of riding in my younger days on a relatives ranch but had never owned a horse. Last year after moving to Arizona, I bought my first at 60 years old. I’m in good shape and still very active so figured why not. I got a horse that I thought was dead broke, only to find some issues with her. I tried seeling her but she whouldn’t have it as she chased every potential buyer away. I made up my mind that I was going to learn to handle her and so glad that she nevr sold. Now, a year and a half later, we have a wonderful relationship and I would trade her for anything. By the way, I used to work training dogs for K-9 also. 🙂
We bought a three year old green broke horse over a year ago and my spouse that has no experience with horses has been riding him and we have not regreded the decision at all! I have experience with horses but not that much either! With a trainer that close to you I feel you should go for it!!! Good luck!
Don’t doubt that you can give them love and attention. Adopt them!
You are never to old to own a horse,i’m fifty and i have a young one that I trained myself, following the Parelli principles and I am thoroughly enjoying my journey. It just hurts more when you fall off.
Christina, I’ve been reading the responses to your question and You’ve gotten alot of good advice from some very dedicated people that truly understand the bonding love of a horse. Last year I lost my last purebred Arabian mare at 31 years old. I had her 17 years and her death left a huge hole in my heart and her Pintabian stablemate very lonely. So, I went in search of a companion for my other mare. I found two mares in different locations and different circumstances both needing a home. I couldn’t decide which one to get because my heart was being pulled in different directions, so, I took them both! One was 13, the same age as my mare in need of a companion and the other one was 18. They have brought the companionship and joy we both needed making our family “complete” again. They will never replace our loss but they have helped us heal. I was 75 and don’t regret what I did, in fact, I’d do it again in a heartbeat. I’ve had horses for 50 years, it’s in my blood and they keep me “young” (nobody believes my age). You are never too old to follow your heart but take the necessary precautions and be safe!
Go for it, if you “feel ” them, love them, enjoy them, you are never to old for something you love. Good luck Marge
Never too old if you have the means and the desire. They already trust you. Getting them to do the rest will take patience but will be worth it!
Go for it
YOU KNOW THE ANSWER! IF YOU DON’T THEN DON’T! SOME OF US DON’T UNDERSTAND YOUR QUESTION: BECAUSE WE HAVE LONGED FOR AND WANTED ONE ALL OUR LIVES. I’M 58, AND IF IT TAKES ANOTHER 30 YEARS I’M STILL GOING TO BUY ONE. HAVING YOUR OWN PROPERTY TOO MAKES IT EASIER ON THE PURSE STRINGS. I HOPE I HAVE HELPED.
I have always wanted my own horse. I have never had that pleasure (yet!). I have always rented them and also went riding on my fried’s horse (someone I met at work, but for years/years rented them at a stable. the owner of the stable was in her 70’s then (long time ago, she told me she broke and hurt her back many times but she never gave up riding and or her horses. I sure she is in her 80-90’s now she probably is still riding. she told me once you are never too old to ride a horse. I’m 60 you are only 50 Go For It and enjoy your babies! They deserve a loving and affectionate home. You have the room, do it!
Go for it! You are a natural animal lover and great karma with all! I agree with Margaret! One is never to old to love and give life to animals!
I am 63. I bought a mare and a colt 3 years ago. The mare was 8 years old big and not broke. I spent a lot of money training her and after getting thrown to the ground one winter day found that she really needed and experienced rider. I ended up buying another very well trained 8 year old mare and have a great time when I have the opportunity to ride. Know your own limitations and know what your willingness is to begin riding a freshly trained horse. It definitely is not the same a riding a very well trained horse that already has a lot of miles on it.
I’ll guarantee you that was not a good experience for me. I hurt for several day afterward. I will tell you though that I got right back on her that day even though we didn’t go far. Good luck. I hope that you have a lot of fun but be cautious.
🙂 age is just a number, Christina, if you feel that you can provide a good start for these two youngsters then go for it! I am 59 , but I do not feel ‘past it’.
Go with your heart, keep safe, you sound as if you have a great bond going already, I believe, that since you have the ‘feel’ for dogs, it will carry on to horses as well.
Good luck
If you have the monetary means, time, and energy to put into these horses, then GO FOR IT! But this is a huge leap; I’ll be honest. Horses are just like any other animal-they’re like a child that never quite grows up. There are medical bills, equipment, training, housing, feeding, and other bills I can go on for ages rambling about; but more than that, they (like all members of a family) need time and love. My suggestion is to sit down and see if all of these are feasible. If so, go for it! But if not, maybe try to help find them better homes. That should be the most important thing: the safety and happiness of the animals, not just us. Anyways, wishing you the best of luck from South Carolina, and hoping everything turns out in your favor!
If we were in your place we would definitely get those two horses and have your trainer assist you in their saddle training. Pay special attention to how much free time they receive outside so the horses expend some of their energy with each other instead of on you or your trainer! If jockey Gary Stevens can still ride winning race horses, you can certainly still ride for recreation. Always have respect for how fast horses can change from quiet and gentle creatures to wild and excitable upon a change in location or environment. Fred and Joan.
Go for it if you are committed for the long term. Get expert help and and learn everything you can to keep yourself safe and your horses happy. You will have to decide over time what your horse philosophy is and which “experts” you will listen to and which ones you will discard. Learn to see the horses’ point of view – how they see things and how they feel about every situation, (because they are not like humans), and then you will have a challenging but very rewarding experience, and your horses will be in good hands.
Sounds like from your connection with these horses that they are already yours! I say go for it… Carefully. Learn all you can, get training for you and the horses, love them, and plan for their future. My partner is 50 and I am 56 (and have a significant physical disability), and we just bought our first horse, a four-year-old Haflinger gelding (very green) last summer. We are boarding him right now, but hope to have a place of our own where we can keep him some day. We are also very aware that he could outlive us, so we want to make a good plan for him to have a long and happy life, regardless of how long we get to spend with him.
Too old a t 50! I am 70, own two horses and would not be without them – they have taught me more about myself and life than any other person or institution.
I only became interested in horses and riding in my late 40’s and have never regretted it.
You are never to old .my story begins when my granddaughter started taking riding lessons.She kept asking me to come and watch her ,but I knew that once I started hanging around horses again I would be hooked.I have been without a horse for about 16 years. Well i went on line and started my search ,found a beautiful Young horse 2 1/2yrs old ,I thought that I could possibly train him ,and get back in the saddle .While training things were going ok till one day he bucked me off.i know horses don’t buck for no reason so I had a vet chech him out ,it turns out he is lame . My point in all this is if you plan on taking on young horses,first have them VET checked or any horse for that matter. It would also be wise to have them trained by a pro. My horse can not be ridden,I am 61 years young and not enough time to waste. So I have bought a well broke vet checked young girl and I ride almost every day .feels good to be in the saddle again.
well dont buy them for her. If you are considering to buy a horse to help out someone else i dont think you should. That may sound harsh, but its really not that simple … you should be buying them for yourself.
I dont think your too old, are you planning to break them in?
all the best 😀 😉
I to am a young 52yrs old, I had a mare in my teens which I sold, when I moved away, now I am doing it again and cant wait to purchase another horse, just waiting on our house to be finished, and I don’t have as much room as you, working part time now so have more time to spend with my new friend. very excited. So do it.
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you are never to old……i did the same thing.
at 65……and i`am hav
ing a ball with my 2 horse`s.go for it and enjoy…life is short.
Go for it….just do it…. u will not be sorry at all
Buy the horses by all means, but please protect yourself! I am 60, had a stroke and brain injuries seven years ago. Then my horse for some reason became very spooky recently and I had some bad falls, but because I wore good protective clothing (hitair jacket and good helmet) I did not get hurt. Now I am about to ride my youngster and I look forward to it! Many years of riding pleasure ahead….
Christina,
My best friend had this dilemma just a few short years ago. She questioned at 50+ years of age was it too much to take a horse on again, she hadn’t ridden in many many years so it would be starting over. I encouraged her to do so. I want to point out to you that you already have one of the most important things required for good horsemanship & that is a relationship w/these horses your considering purchasing. Horses are like fine wines they get better w/age & a respectful, loving, caring relationship will carry so much further than skill ever can. You have a solid foundation already established there is no where to go but up & in my opinion having horses that you can grow & learn with makes for a win win situation. My girlfriend has never regretted for one minute the choice she made & at least if you try & it doesn’t work out well you know you have it a shot, it’s the not knowing & living w/regret if not ever trying that will eat you alive. Whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck!
Never too late and I think I’ve found the fountain of youth! I’m 53 and my husband and I bought a 14 acre country home a yr. and a half ago. We now have 3 horses, 2 mini burros, 8 chickens, 3 ducks 4 dogs and 3 cats. My life has never been so exciting. I had no experience with horses except maybe a dozen or so rides before we did this but a life long dream. We are healthier! We ride 3 -5 days/wk. Just look for the right kind of help and you’ll be fine.
You only live once. 50 is not old! Do what ever it is that makes you happy in life. You may not have the chance again. I wish you years of happiness with these boys! 🙂
Taking riding lessons on a lesson horse if far different than training a horse to ride. (Notice I didn’t use the word break.) I was trotting on the correct diagonal, over poles, jumping crossrails, then over straight rails in my lessons. Bought a horse “perfect for me” and found out myself what I’m telling you. Be safe and use Natural Horsemanship. We are working through it still years later.
Christina,
I have 2 horses and face my 50th birthday in a few months. One horse Ive had for 16.5 years and the other is a recent acquisition. I love to go riding even though I’m more of the running walk/foxtrot stage. My second horse is a Missouri Fox trotter that hadn’t been ridden much in the previous 4 years. My son rides the original horse.
As long as these guys enjoy people and show a desire to learn and explore with their rider. I say go for it.
Karen
Go for it. I was 59 when I bought my horse, now 63, and it’s truly the best thing I have ever done for myself..
Elaine
Hi Christina, How lovely for you to be able to take on two young ones. First of all you are not old at all and you have a passion for animals and their care. About this time last year my husband and I rescued three foals destined for the nackery since their owner/breeder had passed on and all stock had to go. By the way I am 62 years young LOL and have not ridden much since I was a teenager. But when we saw these poor things I fell in love instantly, only intending to take a colt & filly, however the colt was so young about 5months and attached to another filly as a mother figure that I took her too. Fast forward nearly a year and the three have bought so much into our lives, we have given them a lot of basic training learned from friends and by reading and each one rewards us with their antics and pure joy to be around. They have their own paddock and round yard built by us on our 100 acres of land, shelter to come and sometimes when its the right part of the season we let them into the vineyards to eat and discovered that they love to go swimming in our lake/dam. When you are out and about they are always curious and seek you out to see what is going on. The all have excellent condition now and still growing, the two yearling fillies are about 20 months and the little gelding(yes we had him done) about 17 months. We have a large dog and small one and the horses love them except we keep them apart for safety reasons but they are always talking through or over the fence. My dilemma ultimately will be should I ride again or just let others ride them, at this time there is no way I will be parting with them, they are now part of our family. So go for it. Pam, Australia
You are absolutely not too old. I am almost 50 myself and got out of the having horses business once my kids grew up and I had a couple of neck surgeries( neither of which had anything to do with horses). I have kept the two oldest of my horses that no one rides anymore because I owe them a good retirement after all the wonderful years they have given me. But This past summer I rescued a horse thinking about getting back to riding and somehow by the end of summer found myself with 2 more. Now up to 5 in my pasture I have a lot more work to do with them but haven’t been happier in a long time. I also have a trainer working with the last two that I bought. I am going to be as safe as I can but I refuse to give up on one of my biggest passions. And by the way I rescue Great Danes and have 4 of those. Never too late to share your love with any animal I say! Be smart, be safe…Enjoy life. We only get one!
Me again,
People you are so romantic and see just what you want to see. In this particular situation the problem is not Christina’s age, it is her lack of horse experience in order to be able to PROPERLY train and ride 2 young horses without making mistakes and injuring herself and the horses (even though if she has help from her neibor trainer). If you just want to pet them and look at them in the feild that’s another story but I understand that this is not what you want to do with them.
When I read this : ”It doesn’t matter how much experience really… You have a passion, and an opportunity, and you only live once, so take that horse on! You can learn together, you can train him and he can teach you ” I get worried because people think they are in ”the black stallion” movie thinking it will be so fun and easy; but I tell you: you set yourself up for a fail (an a fall). Or it won’t fill the big expectations you have for this project.
So, Christina, I would tell you the same thing even though you would be 24 years old : get an already well trained horse for you to learn riding (it takes more than one year) and don’t worry, you will developp this great relationship with him too! And if you want to, make a good business decision, buy those 2 young horses at a good price and trade them to a good trainer(THIS IS WHAT THEY NEED) for one or 2 well trained horses. This is your ”opportunity” in this situation.
I think I saw to many bad rider/horse experience match that ended up badly or if not, the horse ended up staying in the feild because the rider was affraid to ride him again and was dissapointed that things didn’t go as the nice movie scénario she had in mind. Dont be romantic, your security is in this deal now !
I ride since I am 5 years old, and also teach riding since I am 18th (for 30 years now). I know most of the time, people don’t want to hear the truth ; yes, people, horses can be dangerous and they can hurt or kill you (not in purpose but for example because they are affraid of someting, and it is more to happen with a young horse), and of course nobody will write on a blog like this one admitting how stupid they were of thinking they could train a young horse with their little riding experience and admitt that they felt and broke a leg or that they don’t ride the horse anymore and feel guilty to sell it after the secenario they imagine about the project and told everyone how great and romantic it would be to ”learn with the horse”… Take care and I truly wish you will make the best decision for you and the horses.
We couldn’t disagree more with Louise! When we first started in the equine industry, our high functioning autistic son was not responsive or able to read others feelings well . Our first horse Turk was BARELY green broke and had been badly abused by his supposed trainer . After our adopted daughter lost interest in Turk that my husband had bought for her, we asked my son to feed and water Turk and even take him out for a rides near our town. He was at first dead set against taking care of Turk understanding how much work a horse entails. However gradually over several years our son began to see the advantages of riding Turk as opposed to riding his bike! He no longer had to pedal up hills! He was and still is a sensible son who did not gallop or ride Turk at a fast pace. 90% of the time Turk and our son rode at a walk of various speeds and it took a very long time for our son to begin the trotting gait which was difficult for him to accustom himself too. Because of Turk our son came out of himself and began to notice others and also to be a better balanced individual. Turk and our son grew up TOGETHER and Turk and our son enjoyed each others company till death did they part, after 30 years! Our son is an avid reader and he read everything he could get his hands on about training horses and tack. He eventually even trained thoroughbred horses to ride having Turk to help him, and some of those horses went on to win races. Our son had to learn much about reading others feelings on his own and Turk helped him do that. Fred and Joan.
I would take them Iam also a horse and dog lover if I had the means I would do it and I am 59.
I had horses tilll about 15 yrs ago. I changed my occupation, my mare died and I lost interest. I am no 63 and getting ready to retire. I found a sweetheart of a gelding and in Feb bought him. He keeps me active and happy. I just trail ride and enjoy taking care of him. Our bond is wonderful. Go for it girl. There is a group called Women on the edge. I hope to ride with them next year. They are all over 50.
Christina,
I say go girl your only young and if you have a love for them and can provide for them then do it they are one of the most beautiful and majestic animals around, I’m like you I have just turned 50 and I have a horse breeding business just starting to get going, it’s taken me about 8 years to get to here starting off with 4 horses loosing 2 from snake’s and I now today have just got to 30 with 4 new foal’s making that no and I still have 3 more foal’s to come this year and more next year I haven’t sold any as yet because I’m not at that stage but I won’t my guy’s to go to good home’s because of all the love and time I’ve put into them I would rather keep them than have some one hurt them as they are all my special baby’s, anyway enough of my rambling it is your decision at the end of the day but I couldn’t live without my horse’s and dog’s.
I say go for it! I have been riding and competiting since the age of 7. I took 8 years off to go to college and start a family. At 32 I have found myself in a similar position and now have my 28 year old show horse, a 7 year old TBmare and a 3 year old TB mare that I saved from going to auction. As well as 3 year old TB GELDING that I adopted. Between a full time job , 3 kids and four horses some times it feels like there is not enough time in the day, but I wouldn’t trade a minute of it! So go for it, the love you’ll receive in return will make it well worth it!
Stop thinking about it and jump in, make the two horses yours. The relationship between you and the horses will excel and the bond you will develop will be more than you can ever imagine. You will never regret this.
Don’t let anything stop you, Girl…..GO Girl, GO !!!!!
I have found that training horses is a lot like training dogs; it’s all in your attitude. Keep things black and white. Clinton Anderson has lots of great advice for people with little experience. I highly recommend him. I’m currently using his techniques on a 7-year old gelding that was gelded late and has had no training all this time! He’s a purebred Arabian from some great lines so it’s worth my time to get him under saddle. I wish you the best of luck!
DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DO IT BEFORE SHE SELLS THEM TO A NOT SO GOOD HOME BECAUSE SHE CANT AFFORD THEM AND YOU CAN
Christina,
Well there is lots of good info here and it all comes down to how you feel. You don’t state if these horses are being ridden or if they are just companion horses. If you willing and able to put in the time and some money, you can hire someone to come in and work with you on the training. This I would suggest if you want to go the riding route. As I’m sure you are aware that there is allot more then just throwing on a saddle and bridle and away you go.
As far as cost, you have lots of land on which they can graze until the snow flies with minimum cost for extras (which there really is no need) Sounds like you can put money into a barn, so you can put a tack room also in there for your tack. (You will find that this grows- as some people buy shoes, I buy horse tack) lol So you are looking at buying or harvesting hay for winter with a little extra cost for extra feed. Talk to your Vet and learn to give your own shots and deworming. Cost is cut way down by doing this. Farrier will usually charge a bit less if doing more then one horse. Make sure to ask about this. If nothing else I would keep them for companionship. What is the alternative if you don’t take them? Will she send them to the auction- (not a place horses should go).
I am sure that if something comes up, you will find a wealth of information from friends, your vet and the person that presently has these beauties. Just don’t be afraid to ask.
I am 56 yrs old, ride a 8 yr old Arab-Paint and have just purchased a beautiful 6 month old little American Quarter horse filly. I share daily time between them and my wonderful family, friends my beautiful GSD and still work 3 days a week.
So it all should be how you feel, and just please make sure that this is not just a whim. As it is time, work and money, but you get paid back a thousand folds.
Please let us know what you decide and how it turns out. Take Care and God Bless.
good gosh….getting those boyes sounds like a great idea. And with your coach so close…sounds like a perfict plan.
GO FOR IT!!!! 😀